Ashley Taylor
www.disabledparents.org










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Becoming a Parent

As a parent with a disability, you will face some special challenges. But because you are already adept at overcoming challenges, you will likely be prepared when the time comes. Just keep in mind that there are resources available to you, and you are not alone.

Maybe you are looking for guidance because you already have children on the way, but you could also be looking for information on making children possible. If that is the case, there are various methods for becoming a parent, including in vitro fertilization (IVF). According to Qunomedical, “The success and availability of in vitro fertilization have given hope to many infertile couples who have not been able to conceive. Since 1978, 5.4 million babies have been born worldwide with the help of IVF.” But it is certainly not cheap.

According to Infertility Resources, the average cost of IVF is around $12,000-15,000.Some insurances cover IVF, but most does not, so you are then faced with the task of saving for the procedure. If you’re on a fixed income, this is not always easy to do. One of the best ways to save for a big expense is to find ways to bring in a little extra income on the side. Here are several ways that people earn money without leaving home every day:

 

  • Taking online surveys
  • Bookkeeping
  • Freelance writing
  • Online selling
  • Investing
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    Preparing Your Home for Children

    According to Kids Health, more than a third of child injuries and deaths happen at home, so it’s important to start making changes well before your child starts to crawl,either by hiring a professional or tackling the task alone. For parents with disabilities, one of the main concerns is usually medication, and that is a great place to start. If you are taking various medications, you might have different containers in different rooms of the house. In a home with children,it is best to keep these all in one place so that you know where they are at all times. It’s also not a bad idea to keep medications locked away when toddlers are a little more mobile and begin to get curious.

    Preparing Your Life for Children

    You’ve heard the old saying, “It takes a village to raise a child,” and while this is true for every parent, it could be especially true for a parent with a disability. In fact, there are even laws that mandate that “all supports for parents with disabilities and their families must be community-based.” All this means is that you should not be afraid to ask for help. There are personal assistance services that help with daily activities, housing assistance to secure safe and affordable homes, and transportation assistance to help you travel for both necessary and social purposes. But if you are lucky enough to be surrounded by supportive friends and family, take advantage of their help.

    Conclusion

    As a parent with a disability, you are not unique in your need for help. All parents need child care help for a night away from home, carpool help for getting their children to school on time, and a whole slew of other things we simply don’t think about before we have to. For parents with disabilities, however, you have a special set of local and online resources at your disposal to help make your and your children’s lives the best they can be. Just knowing these resources are available, and collecting all the available information ahead of time, will make things a little more manageable once you actually bring your baby home. There are always unexpected issues that crop up for any parent, but being prepared as much as possible will minimize your stress and streamline your life.


    Ashley Taylor
    ashley@disabledparents.org
    www.Disabledparents.org